"The Love Dare" Day 7

Wow! Was today's lesson an eye opener.

Love Believes the Best

The entire lesson was talking again about how we focus on the negative of relationships without being thankful for the positives.  The dare was to take out two pieces of paper. On the first one write positive things about your spouse and on the second write negatives.  Then you were to hide them in a secret place until a later dare told you what to do with them.

The house was totally silent.  Chris and Jordan were already asleep so I thought, what a great time to sit down and think about my husband.  I started writing out the positives and each and every one made me grateful for him.  It became very easy to keep writing positive things.  Some of the things I hadn't thought of in years! Some of the things were the physical things that attracted me to him 9 years ago.  Though we have both changed physically it was nice to remember those features and to realise that they are still there!

Then I started on the negatives list.  I was about 3 things into it when I realized everything I was writing was a selfish thing that I wished he would do to make me happier.  Writing that list made me realise how selfish I am.  What was also interesting was that some of the things I like most about him, were the same things I disliked.  Let me give an example.

On the positive side  I wrote that Chris is very laid back and doesn't let things bother him.  He allows God to work things out and he doesn't worry.  He knows that God is in control

On the negative sheet, I wrote how he never seems to think things are important and that they need to be taken care of.  In short.  I was saying that I am impatient and that I think things need to be done in MY time and I don't understand how he can just sit there.  WOW!!! He's doing the right thing and I'm worrying and causing stress and more than likely causing fights between because I can't relax and let God take control.

This is just one example of the realisations I had while doing tonight's Dare.  This Dare may sound simple, but when you sit down and start making those list, look at what the real motivations are behind the negatives.

I challenge you to do this with someone you love.  Don't give them the list, there is no really no need.  You will see that the positives FAR out weigh the negatives and you will have a whole new respect for the other person.

God Bless You All

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